The word of Elohim clearly instructs us in several roles for man and women and this website strongly promotes them. God provides the leadership roles in the holy Body of Mashiach to men, including restricting women from having authority or teaching over men. Men are given the headship role in the home as well. Women are instructed to be workers in the home, and submissive. These are well known, and Kodesh Kallah seeks to promote them with joy, because they are holy and good and from our Father.
Yet it is curious, because sometimes I wonder if what is deeper than the specific roles themselves is the masculinity and femininity of man and woman. And interestingly, it is not just the roles which the modern world including professed Christians are rejecting; it is also the masculinity and femininity. Modern believers seem to be at war with their gender itself, not just with the word of Elohim.
For God’s word does give more gender distinctions beyond the roles, albeit without going into great detail. For example, it tells us a man and women should not wear clothing that pertains to the other (Deut 22:5). It also emphasizes certain characteristics of each; it tells men to act like men in having courage (1 Kings 2:2, 1 Cor 16:13); it emphasizes women’s submissive and caring qualities, instructing her to have a meekness in heart. The idealized woman of Proverbs 31 has as a core job caring for the poor. Modesty and discretion are also emphasized for women (1 Pet 3:3-4, 1 Tim 2:9, Proverbs 11:22).
Furthermore, mankind also has many good traditions which emphasize and encourage the same gender distinctions. We have a distinction in dress, even though it can vary somewhat. We have a distinction in labor, saving the heaviest and most dangerous labor for the man, moreover discouraging them from the most feminine pursuits. We have a distinction in toys for small children, even though there is some overlap. Man has naturally done these practices throughout the ages, and they seem perfectly in line with scriptural truth and nature, despite the fact that we ourselves are deciding where to draw exact lines.
Yet nearly this entire distinction between men and women, nearly the whole gender roles of scripture, are being rejected by the modern Kahol (Church). It is clearly not just the secular world which is gender bending. Truthfully that would be a joke to even suggest. For example, speaking of roles, the women’s role as worker at home is both ignored and even disrespected by the majority of western Christians. Women have given up their submissive role in the congregation as well, at the minimum by presuming to preach over men, and in some circles by holding leadership roles. Many in the Kahol still nominally upholds male headship at home, but in practice seem to have little use for it. How many modern heads of a Christian home come home each day knowing there is only one head and that they will be respected? Well I certainly do. But to tell you the truth I don’t know how many others do.
Beyond the obvious disconnect with biblical truth and abandonment of gender roles, is the truly transsexual nature of the modern Kahol. And this is the main point of this page at Kodesh Kallah. Because beyond disobeying God by tossing out gender roles, His sacred Bride seems to be tossing out its very masculinity, its very femininity, in seeking to cross over between them. Her congregants even look transgendered, at least much of the time. Walk in a modern gathering of called-out ones, and tell me if you don’t get the feeling you’re at a homosexual parade. Or more accurately a transsexual one. One of the biggest complaints of the modern Kahol is what the secular world has done with gender, pushing on even little children books like Girls Will be Boys Will be Girls. Yes, the Kahol angers at these things. Preaches against them. But when we examine what believers themselves think, it appears they think that girls will be boys also, and that boys will be girls too. We are at war with God, beloved. And we are at war with nature.
If you relate these truths to your average Christian, the one who is to be conformed to the perfect image of Mashiach, the response will most often be outright revolt. It could be apathy too. Sure. But usually revolt. Now outright revolt is not what you would expect from one called to obedience to God, as well as to holiness, but revolt against God, and hatred of the messenger is what you will likely see. For many little Christs today have actually been taught an IDEOLOGY of anarchy. A philosophy of disorder. Believe it or not they’ve had it instilled in them that the amazing and beautiful freedom in Mashiach the Bible relates means something like license to do as you feel. At the very minimum a lack of clear standards. At the maximum a street riot. The more licentious, the more carnal, the more from the gut of a poorly-raised adolescent the better. So the idea of receiving clearly and with holiness or with thought and understanding the biblical teachings on gender roles is beyond most Christians. It is truly beyond them. God have mercy. We must pray for the grace to change this disaster, brethren. Just as we must pray for the grace to accept ourselves as men and women in the roles God gave us. All things are possible with God. That includes obedience.
Therefore I will provide some resources below, some of which I will build myself, for restoration of manhood and womanhood. I hope that they will inspire you, inform you and even help you in restoration in your life. Help you to change your home. To just give a handful of points I suggest for restoration, please consider these:
- Respecting the biblical gender roles themselves.
- Reinforcing those roles with helpful practices (for example, the head seat for the head of the home)
- Having a distinction in dress. This is commanded biblically, although we will certainly need to make some judgments ourselves. For example, pants for men; skirts and dresses for women.
- Respecting holy modesty, especially for women,
- Drawing distinctions for activities; for example, keeping the heavy and risky work for men to do.
- Raising our children with a sense of masculinity and femininity. This could be through toys, activities and even how we speak to them. It can emphasize the boldness of the growing boy, and the meek heart of the godly young woman.
Finally, I’d like to point out the absurdity of leaving gender roles behind, especially for we who call Mashiach our King. Because in trying to blend our natures, in trying to blend our genders, we take that bearer of life who is womankind, and place her in grave danger. In some instances, we are even placing her in warfare and in combat. Not only is this counter-natural, but much more diabolically, in sending woman into combat, we are sending the small, unprotected child whom she may bear within her. We show not only our hatred for gender roles, we show not only our war against God, we show our willingness to harm the smallest and most defenseless of our people. To harm our own children. Still more commonly than this, when we seek to make the woman like the man and push her from girlhood to be a career woman capable of supporting a household, we are ensuring the many years of schooling and other training that comes with it. And how then do we pass this time? You know how. By putting contraceptive chemicals into her body, chemicals which are abortifacient in nature, and when those chemicals do not have the desired effect, by going to an abortion doctor and paying him to kill. This is how we maintain the mannish woman who is to lead a home – through hormonal chemicals, and child killing. That is a fact. The war on gender can only be sustained through the war on children.
So beloved, if you want an image of the woman, one which is holy and life-giving, full of godliness and love, turn away from the defeminized women who are today chained to their careers and barreling into combat. Turn instead to Miriam the mother of our Savior, who was the mother of God. She answered Elohim saying only – Behold, the maidservant of the Lord! Let it be according to your word. She bore Him in her womb and suckled Him at her breast. And Yeshua from the cross called out – Woman, behold your son – and to His disciple – Behold your mother.
To the Holiness of the Bride:
Resources Encouraging Biblical Gender Roles and Families
ATI offers good Bible-based family training and home education. From what I understand you have to join their entire program in order to get their homeschooling material.
Institute in Basic Life Principles — IBLP runs various programs including one focusing on building biblical character and the above ATI in home education. They respect the family and gender roles.
Articles and Books on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood — This site offers a wealth of material. this page offers the pdf versions of two excellent books on manhood and womanhood by John Piper and Wayne Grudem.
Desiring God — You can read more about Piper and Grudem’s book Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. You can also purchase it online.
Recovering Male Spirituality — Dan Juster of Tikkun Ministries writes on restoring biblical and traditionally Jewish manhood in the Messianic movement. As a Jewish believer myself, I would be on my knees in joyous praise to see this happen.
Grace to You — A search of pastor John MacArthur’s website with many articles on the biblical roles of men and women.
Are you Crazy? — Why don’t you think women should wear pants? This is my own article about crossdessing in the Body of Messiah, and explaining through scripture and common sense why women should not dress like men.
Get Your Toilet Right — Taking the popular image of the bathroom sign, here is a brief guide to help Christians keep their gender roles correct. I include a number of the major scriptures at the end.
Advice on Restoring Gender in this Fallen Age — Articel by the author.
Of “Dad Moms” and “Man Fails”: An Essay on Men and Awesomeness — by Owen Strachan
A Collections of Articles — Here are various articles about gender and gender roles from the Answers in Genesis website.
Benefits of Marriage — It’s interesting how the Word of God is repeatedly in harmony with natural law and reason. Western hedonism and materialism are not. This article details the goodness of marriage for the people involved and for society.
LGBT or MNPS? — Modest Natural Plain and Simple: This letter to a brother in Messiah begins by answering the question of why I wear a beard, and continues by explaining the simple application of biblical principles to our life. We practice modesty and we respect the way that God made us. I wish all other Christians did.
I am His child and He loves me
In Human Nature I wrote this originally for a pro-life gathering, but its frank call to repentance led it to be rejected. It deals specifically with transgenderism and why it’s wrong, and goes on to reveal the Church’s error in mixing genders, disregarding holiness and destroying traditional marriage. It is what NO ONE wants to hear.
The Fruit of Dying Faith and the Christian Disregard for the Family (I’ll put some of this up in The Abomination section of Kodesh Kallah)
This is the church, and this is the steeple, open the doors, and here are the people.
Secularism and low birth rates go hand in hand, which is why Christianity in the west looks headed for extinction but still survives in Africa and other regions.
Westernized Catholics in India apparently want their wicked contraception and abortion, and are a shrinking population.
More from the UK — While I’m not fond of the English Church, this article gets to the point: chuchgoers are in a minority, in large part because they are simply dying off. Where are the children? God is bringing this people its just rewards.
Christians and post-Christians — It’s time to bring the women back to the home, and accept God’s gift of children. Or goodbye.